Life Without Whatsapp

One of new years’ resolution was to develop my skills and somewhere cut down unwanted baseless communication and social networking with the world so that I can fetch some more time for development of own skills.

Facebook, Hangout, Google+, Whatsapp, Linkedin etc etc...

In this world of laptops, smart phones, tablets we have endless medium to stay connected, ENDLESS.. the whole world knows where are we, what we are up to, what exactly are we eating and the biggest of all is we are available 24 X 7 just a ping away.

We are online and available almost every moment every second of the day and night. The first thing that we do after waking up is checking the whatsapp and those red notifications on our facebook page.

But in the middle of all these endless "FORCED" & baseless communication we fail to realize how much we have ignored  the time we wasted, from those showering good mornings pings on some XYZ group till those useless forward massages few of the important moments are drained out.

Yes I do feel and agree that whatsapp is one of the greatest app ever developed but somewhere it is turning out to be more as a time eater than medium to stay connected.

I miss the days of SMS when it was all convenient to communicate according to our time and love those phone and face to face conversations that are somewhere lost their significance and beauty just like those greeting cards and bouquet in this world of technology.

Here are my reasons to quit whatsapp :

1) Too much communication    : Getting up 7 in the morning ending up hitting Whatsapp, result wasted 20 minutes doing nothing constructive. We are too much available to people, every moment every second I was more curious to reply. Reply to make people feel that they are important no matter how busy I was, where I was stuck , I was forced to mark my presence and showing the fake statement that I care. The whole communication thing got endless but not meaningful and medium squeezed to whatsapp. But whatever  I communicated only 20% holded the meaning.

2)Too much networking :Whatsapp utterly changed the meaning and classification, beauty of word called "Friends". According to the new whatsapp theorem the conversation that we made on whatsapp defined the "friends" and we forget the essence that most of conversation we do was with ramdom people we have met here n there. With a normal hey whatsapp and small talk like “aur kya chal rahaa hai?” (whats going on?) I realized what kind to time eating communication and people I am inviting to my life. Whatsapp do lead and fulfill the purpose of networking but whats the meaning of those forced communications.

3) Self Development: In this dynamic era of communication, I am reading and making my own life’s tale. Being in 20s is all about developing, learning and preforming. Following dreams, ,making efforts to lead the kind of life I want. But How often we get those early good morning pings over some random group I was never bothered to reply but yes just checking those msgs killed most of my time. Since morning till the time I was supposed to sleep, every time few minutes that could been utilized by reading some good books or anything constructive was wasted in entertaining the situations that will eventually lead into killing the time.

4) Killing Relations: Too much communication kills the relation. I practically noticed it. Whatsapp magnified communication. Every time every second we type and read. Hardly getting time to think all thanks to “Blue tick”. Result : Increasing expectations and then misunderstandings and then ending the good relations.

Major changes after whatsapp:

1)     Freedom : freedom from reply, freedom from checking phone every second. Freedom of doing what I want, freedom of time. No forced urge to talk and reply.

2)     More Time: I now have more time for myself. I read three great books in one month stretch. I had more time to follow my hobbies and more dedicated to my self.

3)     No more “Unwanted Janta”: After deleting the whatsapp I noticed only my real buddies contacted me and were there from me . Thanks Aditi, Sakshi Jain, Pankaj, Manish, Vishu, Anku, Nami, Neha & Deep J.

4)     More Peace : It is something I loved the most. I was at peace, contended & happy.

5)     More Mindful : I was mindful and dedicated with full concentration whatever I did. I was more productive than ever. My skills of reading and writing improved.

Keeping no offence with whatsapp, I still appreciate the app. I strongly feel that its not the fault of the application. It was me who was way too much engrossed in the application. Somewhere not having whatsapp was a problem too. My two really close friends Kashish & Ishan, moved out of India. And somewhere I missed whatsapp because I wanted to communicate and ISD rates are way too high. In this case whatsapp was a treat to pocket as it offered free calling around the globe. But in that case we do have different options. I used my mother’s phone to call them ;).

At the end my conclusion is “too much of anything is bad”. Somewhere we have to prioritize our life. Somewhere we need to decide what amount of communication is important & what is toxic to us and our brains. Whatsapp being a business venture will always develop the kind the attribute which will lure us and that is the real test of our intellect. Getting indulge into it or not is our decision.

Tuesdays with Morrie ..

Do we really realize that our time is limited on this earth. We the humans are born with a expiry date & shelf life. Still we are too busy in stealing those things that has nothing to do with fulfilling our lives.

That Villa, that swanky car, that one night in club,. Do these things really makes us happy?
that's all we live for? How often we just procrastinate that dinner with our family just to give the best presentation next morning in office, how often we just skip that weekend with friends for that business trip & Client meeting, how often we skip that forgiveness just to save our egos.

And on the death bed, after everything we just realize, the time has gone, where are we, where are the people??

Life goes like a moment, and that moment that we actually spent loving others and receiving that love only remains.

Tuesdays With Morrie.. 

What a book it was, Mitch the our generation guy, too much engrossed in earning those dollars, moving to bigger better houses, buying that another car, spending almost every moment in work, writing articles and following sports, as we all are.

We all had that dream to follow our heart rather than getting lost in the rat race of the world. Money. power, fame, society, we often get lost in the zeal of building and achieving those dreams that actually was never the real goal. And, even after achieving everything we are peace less, not happy, empty.

& then this old man Morrie, too sick, too tired, and knows his end, knows the fact that he might skip that next breath, and might die at any time. Cannot move his body, cannot do any of his personal work. Totally dependent on others for anything & everything.
Still happy, STILL CONTENDED.

I learnt what my generation is actually loosing to have, and what the actual treasure is. We are used to of substituting our real happiness by buying that material things for the market. We keep on cursing every moment even after having that healthy living, sitting & working for 9 hours and doing the stuff we don't like & appriciate. We cannot even afford to have and share happiness with our buddies just because of the choices we make every now and then.

Life is all about choices and priorities, who cares whether Sachin actually made the century or not, how could it even effect our lives, but we the people kill our time, our supper and everything to follow him religiously.

Tuesdays with Morrie is a kind of book that everyone of our generation must read, so that they can actually differentiate between living the life & counting breath.

Sorry, No Plans ..!!

Sitting in my room, with this laptop on my lap I am trying hard to write down something, something which is eating me, and something which is successful to draw all my attention... The attention seeker... not even for me but for everyone on this "Tiny blue bright" planet and even tinier our human heads,

From UN to India, from Parliament to that small KG student, everyone is busy in planning, planning something and everything in life,

Planning to sleep
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Planning to get those marks
Planning to eat, planning to drink, planning to get that new Iphone,Planning for vacations, EVEN PLANNING FOR POTTY & PEE......

 PLAN PLAN PLAN & PLANNN........
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Planning to crack that interview and bag that 12 LPA job
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Planning to get married..... planning for a baby

&
Blah Blah Blah...!!!!

Even the Government...


Five year plans, odd even plan of government, women empowerment, make in India,

Increasing jobs in India, Better GDP, Better Per Capita Income ...PHEWWW..!!!

and even EVERYTHING.......

How often we plan everything, our lives,our next ten years, Five years even the next day.. We keep on weighing every moments to our moods, to our interest to achieve some level in our lives and achieving the
most,but in the middle of everything do we really realize that we are actually loosing the moment which is now, and fetching nothing out of it.

I was addicted to this popular term call planning. When I was 17, I had this crazy plan for whole of my life, and innocence child me was unaware that things & life don't move according to the plans we make, I planned to be police commissioner to achieve a mischievous dream to put my irritating cousin in jail (LOL), but today I don't even want to attempt those civil service exams.  

And again I am loosing all my peace to plan my career, my life. The irony is I am clueless about what will happen in the next moment next second still I am planning.

This is human nature and definitely we cannot avoid that. After all the mind jolt I have came across, and all the self "MANTHAN" I did, I came to the conclusion that the reason of our all the planning is expectations. YES "EXPECTATIONS" from everything, even to own self. But this whole planning leaves us somewhere in sorrows and unhappiness, resulting into a situation where we belittle our own sole & capabilities.
I personally have started feeling that often plans put us in a situation, where we are directionless, no matter how much we plan, the change is inevitable, nothing is permanent all thanks to the theory of dynamics, the only thing that we can plan is "Acceptance of Change", because no matter what the planning is how the planning is Nature will have its own rules, Its own games & Destiny will decide it all... All we can do is doing best & being best in our deeds because life is too short for those material goals.  

All we need to do is be in moment and be happy, and keeping peace with our soles, not planning but living, living as the way we are, living as the way we want living for happiness, refreshing our hearts with love :)....

Glass Quarter filled..!!

I am 25 now !!
According to life expectancy of a human being on this earth, keeping all the practically aside, I have legally, originally and technically completed 1/4th life as a human.

And being a 25 in India means, a perfect marriage material, everything on this planet will be by default related to the great Olympic event of life called and celebrated as marriage..In simple words "Shadi on my mind"

or

to be more specific.. "shadi on everyone's mind who knows you any how" and the next question after how are you?? will be accompanied with all the back tapping for all the good deeds and achievements will be .. So when are you getting married??

and sadly my reply to this question often break the dreams of people to have wedding dinner. :D
that is atleast 3 years, and leaves them out struck with a question.. "ITNI LATE", "ab toh kar le, tu SETTLE bhi ho gayi hai" ( "THAT'S TOO LATE", "You are settled now, its the perfect time to get married")

Phew!! these sentences are like "how much did you score in 10th board??" in our 11th standard, the most upvoted question in real life by your relatives, family and friends.

But no one actually bothers what exactly that "settled" word means to the person who is constantly bearing forceful advice to get married.

What if the settlement is something I am not looking for...
What if that word settled seems like stoppage in my dreams..
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What if the aim of life is still not known & what if I am still not able to explore who am I exactly, what I really want to do exactly in my life...

What if I am all set to give a new boost to my career and earn as much as I want, and investing all that earned money in travelling this world and write a book ...

What if my aim is to just be aimless, looking endlessly for knowledge, being obsessive for trying every new thing on this planet, being a hippy, being a social worker or being a people's person,, either being whatever I dream for... now , today, tomorrow & everyday till the day I am blessed to be on beautiful planet, the only known planet till today blessed with power to give birth to this amazingly ecstatic thing called "LIFE"...

And luckily, what if in this long journey getting along with a similar sole my Prince Charming :) !!!!, who owns similar insanity as i do, bound by an invisible string popularly called as "Love", no word commitments just two similar hearts looking for similar purpose together, what if time is all set to surprise you with all magnificent experiences and love. :)  
I strongly feel, marriage is not the destination of a youngster to achieve, a lot more has to be seen, a lot more has to be explored both inside and out, a lot more people to love and loved by them...

Aur bhi ghum hain zamane me is Ishq ke siwaa..
Hasroton ko rok kaise de us ashiq ke liye jo apna kabhi tha hi nai,
Naye sapne kaise sazaa le jinko hum jaante hi nai,
Manzil phir bhi jaani pehchani hai,
Agar hasil nai kar paye phir bhi koi ghum nai,
Koshish toh puri ki thi,
Wo manzil hi bevafaa nikli...

Koi ghum nai is baat ka,
chalo wo nai mile,
Naye manzil aur dhoondh lenge,
Duniya mai manzilon ki kami nai,
dum hai abhi hai is dil me,
Housale me koi kami nai,
haasil toh kar lenge,
Aaj nai toh kal hi sahi..... :) !!

Happy Birthday New Year, You will be missed 2015...

New year, new opportunities, new expectations, New dreams and "NAYE RAASTE"

Again a year is packing its bags to move out from our lives, and we are busy in decorating are lives for welcoming 2016 with a BANG, planning up all the parties to welcome the "NEW YEAR"in the best possible manner with a small expectation that 2016 will be well mannered..

Like that glass of wine that we are planning to gulp on New Year with a thought process of getting drunk till we get on our knees with happiness somewhere still expecting 2016 will be as joyful as that new year party will be..

But how can we forgot the year 2015 that taught us so much that it was successful to prepare ourselves for all the fabulous opportunities  may come and kiss our feet with success..

From PM Modi till ISIS, from Make in India to Maxima Zuckerberg , From France attack till MH 370, a year of ups & downs , happiness and sorrows not only for the world but even to us, giving endless stories tell and share with this world and for all of us personally, few new additions to our Dos & Don'ts list...
Here I am sharing my lesson learnt list from 2015, a land Mark year of my life:-

1) First and Most Important :

Nothing is permanent in this world not even our sorrows, at last I was able to successfully complete n get my professional degree for which I begged and worked hard for almost 4 years, with completion of my  professional exam I was eligible to prefix my name with "CS".

2) Place in the hearts of people for life is much greater award than that trophy on the shelf of drawing room, all thanks to the professional training session of ICSI - The MSOP.

3) You can change the mentality of a person but not his basic nature, as said in the story of frog & Scorpion.

4) Nothing can substitute the charm of old friendships. credit goes to Manish the Monu Kaka & Aditi my Addo.

5) There is no perfect age to explore your interest as said "Jab Jago Tabhi Savera".

6) Hard work never fails, success can be delayed but it is not impossible to achieve.

7) Siblings are the best friends chosen by god and gifted to you, bhaiya thanks always and for everything love you. :)

8) The one who wants to leave will leave no matter how much you put effort to make that relationship work, it will never work out.

9) In office we do get great friends, not all of them are enemies thanks Ishan, Neha & Neha J and yes Baharwali :P :) you were the reason for my survival here. 

10) And last but not the least, travel as much as you can, party hard and work hard, seize the moment, live happily don't wait for those Saturday nights. :) !!!

With all these ten learning I am all set to welcome 2016 with a big hug, and expecting to make full out of this year, making some more additions to my wisdom, some more spice to my life, some more additions to my friends list Sakshi Shiwani welcome and thanks...

Thanks 2015 for making me more mature and maintaining that kid Preeti in me, kissing away my pains and for maintaining my belief over hard work. 

You!!

Little less. little more,

still waiting while looking at the door,

Missing those scoldings, missing that voice,

Calling my name but keeping no choice,

What a birthday is it without you,

what a birthday is it having you as due,

Nothing is lighting nothing is brightening,

escaping this phase which is frightening,

​Parents are the base of living,

keeping faith and creating,

I wish to see you soon maa,

with all faith from eve to dawn,

Little less, little more,

still waiting while looking at the door...

That Extra Mile and One Inch...

He was on the knees,
He was already the undefeated king. and with all the happiness on his face, he thought he knew it all,
But then he realized No!! I still have enough power I can stand and conquer whatever is left in this world,
But yes like many of us he also wanted something to hold up, like a celebrity he cheered the world and made them realize he is ready to rock the world took the support of the wall next to him,
And STOOD..

It was his first step!!

The step the FIRST STEP!! Finally he was standing on his feet, ready to run, crawling was no more his idea and no more his willingness and way to accomplish things..
But suddenly he felt that weakness that fenced him and he fell, again on the floor, again on that same state from where he started,

His mother seeing her piece of heart falling, rushed towards him...

But before she could grab him, he again put that all extra effort which was needed and again stood and even walked claiming his victory against gravity, against those weaker bones, keeping that land under his feet, leaving behind his mark of happiness through his footstep....

"THAT ONE EXTRA EFFORT MADE ALL THE DIFFERENCE"

We human beings have a tendency for settling down for something we are not meant for, the only reason is, we never try to push our selves and almost 90% times doubting our own capabilities. abilities and put all the blame on the external factors..
We forget the fact that we are the one who actually took over that first step in our childhood and that was the stepping stone which leads us to walk and run...

Sometimes its hard to say that how many steps are still needed to get what we want, but that's the key, if everyone was capable off to possess such great amount of patience the world could have been a better place and a palace of dreams & admiration...

Some times that first step...
Some times that extra mile and one inch makes all the difference :) ....!!!